“Queen CrashGirl Rules”
Go ahead . . . Laugh At My Expense
This is a note I shared with my FB friends (before I started blogging). It was over a year ago, when CrashGirl was just 3. She was already shaping up to be quite the problem solver . . .
Me (for the 10th time): If you don’t pick up your toys they are going in the rubbish
CrashGirl: I’ll get them out
Me: It’s rubbish day in the morning, they will go to the dump
CrashGirl: Put them in the rubbish then
Me: Don’t you think Miffy will be sad at the dump?
CrashGirl: She can just come home. She would just jump out of the truck and come home
Me: Miffy doesn’t know how to get home
CrashGirl: I’ll go down there and talk to the man and tell him I want my toys back
Me: silenced (trying not to pee my pants laughing!)
One year on and she has become a full-blown negotiator. Here are her top 5 tactics
1. Using expressions for emphasis . . .
. . . even when they are wrong. After a few failed attempts to get CrashHubby out of the toilet, she returned and shouted at the door, “You have to get off, I’m STARVING”. CrashHubby of course couldn’t refuse and relinquished the toilet to our busting daughter.
2. Reminding your adversary of past favours
The other night CrashHubby promised the kids they could watch Shrek on TV. Then he realised to his horror that the test match between the Wallabies and Wales was on the other channel. CrashGirl graciously let him change the channel during the ads, each time reminding her nodding off Daddy that he could watch his rugby now.
Yesterday CrashHubby staked a firmer claim on the remote and chose what he wanted to watch. Unfortunately it was not what CrashGirl wanted to watch. And so the negotiating began. “Daddy, remember when I let you watch your rugby during the ads?”
3. The power of suggestion
This one usually arises when she wants something like dessert (which we don’t have very often). “I know, we’ll have icecream” or “Why don’t we have icecream in a cone? That’s a good idea isn’t it?”
4. Stepping it up
If her suggestions don’t elicit an answer, or the answer she wants, she just goes ahead and answers it for you, “I know, we’ll have icecream. Yes? Good. I’ll get it out!” Therefore creating her own reality, regardless of your participation (or not) in the conversation!
5. When it all goes wrong
CrashHubby asked her tonight what would she do if she didn’t get what she wanted. She thought for a few seconds then flashed her big baby blues at him and said with a wry grin, “I’ll cry”.
I think I’m going to need to sharpen up my own negotiating skills and prepare myself for future bargaining over my car keys!
Do you have a negotiator in training? What are their favourite tactics?