One of the most difficult things about my decision to be a Stay At Home Mum are the times when I acutely feel the yawning gap between my previous life a a career woman and my current life scraping weetbix off the floor.
I refer to them as “I’m such a failure” funks. CrashHubby then has to give me the same pep talk telling me all the things I’m doing well.
His pep talks are finally starting to work. I am slowly starting to recalibrate my perception of what success is – for me! And that’s the important part. Too often we judge ourselves based on others’ perceptions.
That old nugget called comparison.
This weekend I’m attending a conference for bloggers. One that focuses on making a profession of blogging. Comparison will be rife, subconsciously or not.
And here’s the kicker, I’ll be talking on a panel about “Taking a new blog to success”. Ironic, because I don’t feel successful in the usual way a blogger is deemed successful. It will be interesting. I am nervous, but only when I judge myself by others’ standards. I am more comfortable when I realise I’ve achieved more than I ever expected to in the past year. And that I did it my way.
You don’t need to be a blogger to know what I’m talking about. If you’re a mum you’ll know all about the pressures of ‘having it all’, and for the unfortunate amongst us, we also know the fall out when we try to have it all right now and don’t quite manage it. I’ve been there. Which is why I’ve had to take a different approach to parenting, blogging, life in general.
My bloggy friend Sonia from Life Love and Hiccups wrote a great post yesterday called “Are we partly responsible for our own demise”. It’s about the fall out of this crazy race to be a successful mother, successful this, successful that. It’s a great read and highlights the importance of our mental health (yesterday was World Mental Health Day). I think every day should be mental health day! I also think I should probably write more on this blog about my experience with adrenal fatigue and stress and how to look after yourself. If you’re interested in hearing more, please let me know in the comments.
Are you/have you been a victim of your own success? And can you call it your own, or are you trying to achieve someone else’s version?
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