This is the next stop on our roadmap. We’re still exploring the Danger Zone. The last post was about exhaustion and fatigue. Today I explore depression in an attempt to help us all reveal it and start taking the next step, for ourselves or for our loved ones.
If a black dog started hanging around, I’d notice. It would be totally obvious. If she started getting aggressive with me and tried to dominate me, I’d fight back.
I’d put a collar and leash on that bitch and teach her some manners.
No, for some of us, Depression is craftier, more covert, surreptitious.
At first she’s the friend who offers you tea and sympathy . . .
“Yes, I can see how hard it is. They’re both still young. I understand. You’re probably just really tired.”
“You’re not the only one. All mums find it hard.”
She’s your ally and alibi, pulling you into the charade, offering your excuses . . .
“Don’t worry about the dishes, you need a rest.”
“Who cares if you’re not super skinny, you deserve that wine and chocolate.”
“Just roll over and got to sleep, he’ll understand.”
The seductress reveals her true self . . .
“They’d be better off without you. I’ll take care of them.”
“You can’t get it together. Why don’t you just give up?”
All she really wanted was your life. To drive a wedge between you and those your love. To rob you of your interests. To squash your zest for life.
Would you notice the warning signs?
How easily would the seductress weave her way into your life and try and take it away from you?
When CrashHubby first suspected I was depressed, we turned to the Beyond Blue website for guidance. In my own time and privacy I answered one of the surveys. I was shocked to see the result, but thankfully I had CH’s support.
It gave me the jolt I needed. Even so, it was still hard to take the next step of seeing a GP, but I did.
The following are some symptoms from one of the checklists for depression on the Beyond Blue site. There are also checklists for anxiety, bipolar disorder and PND.
- Depressed mood most of the day
- Less interest or pleasure in all activities
- Weight loss or gain (when not dieting)
- Sleeping difficulties
- Slowed or fastened movements
- Tiredness or loss of energy
- Feeling worthless
- Difficulty concentrating
- Thoughts of death
I have a crash test for you
It’s time to reveal the seductress. If not for yourself, then for someone else who might need help.
If life has been feeling a bit foggy and grey, consider having a look at the Beyond Blue site or one of the many resources on the RUOK site that can help you recognise how you’re feeling, or help you reach out to someone else.
Or maybe you know the signs because you’ve already walked in those shoes. Is there someone in your life you could help?
IMPORTANT: Don’t go looking for things that might not be there. Be respectful. Don’t judge.
Here is a great guideline on how to ask someone else if they are ok.
DISCLOSURE: I’m not a trained medical professional and what I write here does not constitute medical advice. If you or someone you love needs help, please seek the services of a GP or other relevant medical professional.
If you feel comfortable sharing, please comment below. If you can offer advice of your own, we’d all love to hear from you.